Stepping Back from Overfunctioning:
A Self-Restoration Toolkit

Stepping back from Overfunctioning in Love is a  simple  concept...

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...but it is  not easy  when it comes to actually doing it.

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The thought of doing less for them and more for yourself probably brings up a lot of overwhelm, angst, and uncertainty about how this will all play out. You wonder:

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• How do I know when I'm caring for them vs. Overfunctioning for them?

• Where do I even begin stepping back?

• How do I tolerate them struggling or being upset with me?

• What happens when I'm left to pick up the pieces?

• How do I not get lost in their gaslighting and my own self-doubt?

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If these are the kinds of questions that race through your mind when you think about Stepping Back, you are not alone!

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After years (decades?) of being this way, it can be so scary and unnerving to even think about doing it differently. And this can make it really hard take the first step. 

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 That's why I created this toolkit 

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To help you confidently navigate the biggest hurdles when it comes to Stepping Back in Love. 

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In this gorgeous 40-page PDF guide, you get:

1. An Overfunctioning in Love Checklist, that walks you through many forms of physical, mental, emotional, and sexual Overfunctioning, so you can begin to assess your own ways of thinking and behaving

2. Education and specific tools to help you walk through the 5 biggest hurdles of Stepping Back:

   1. How to know when you're doing something that is caring for your partner vs. when you're in Overfunctioning (so often they look the same, which is why this can be so confusing)​

   2. How to know where to begin and what to do instead of Overfunctioning

   3. How to tolerate your Underfunctioning Partner's tantrums when you stop doing so much for them, and how to resist the temptation to rush in and fix things

   4. How to strategically respond when the natural consequences of their Underfunctioning inevitably fall on you (and/or the kids)

   5. How to "hold on to yourself" when they try to convince you that you're doing something wrong by stepping back and when you start doubting yourself

3. Worksheets that you can print over and over to use for each Overfunctioning behavior you want to change; this helps you master the process, so that one day you won't even need to write it out because you'll just automatically think and behave this way

4. Journal Prompts to help you dig a little deeper into your own thought process around the fears and hurdles of stepping back. 

5. Inspiring Self-Restoration Reminders that you can print and hang up as beautiful nudges to remember that you are now a Self-Restoring Woman who leads with self-respect and self-love

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 Most importantly, you get Clarity, Confidence, and the Courage to take these brave steps. ​

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** This toolkit pairs nicely with the Foundational Masterclass, where you learn

my 7-step process for how to step back from Overfunctioning in Love **